Guide to Conduct and...


Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 2. Formalities concerning Family Affairs

Chapter 4. Marriage

Section3. The Wedding Ceremony

1. The wedding ceremony is performed in a temple or, according to the circumstances, in a private home or public hall. The ceremony should be performed according to the following order after entrance of bride and broom:
1) Opening
2) Offering up donation to the Buddha and statement of purpose (Ceremonial Text 18)
3) Mental affirmation (Ceremonial Text 19)
4) Exchange of the marriage certificate and bow
5) Dharma discourse (Ceremonial Texts 20-21) or officiant's message
6) Congratulatory remarks
7) Song of a Wedding (Hymns 42)
8) Greeting of the bride-and-groom and representatives of family [to the audience]
9) Closing and exiting of the bride and groom.
2. During the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom bow to each other and, according to the situation of both families, can exchange wedding presents. After a dharma discourse, bowing to parents (two times) and greeting to relatives (bowing once) can be added. When there are congratulatory telegrams, singing, and flowers, they can be introduced or presented the after congratulatory remarks.
3. The officiator reads the statement of purpose to the Buddha and then the bride and groom bow twice to the Buddha. After reading the entire wedding certificate to the bride and room, the officiator hands the bride's copy to groom and the groom's copy to the bride. The bride and groom twice to each other, and after the dharma discourse, they bow once to the person who delivered the discourse. All these proprieties should be performed courteously.
4. The bride's and the groom's ceremonial dress, the musical accompaniment during their entering and leaving, and their accompaniment by other persons must all be carried out according to general conventions and the circumstances of both sides, which should be suitable to their means.