Guide to Conduct and...


Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 1. General Propriety

Chapter 7. Speaking and Responding

Section 3. Appropriate Manners in Responding in Conversation

1. In conversational exchanges, one should reply with a gentle face and genial tones. Even when one is angry or has a complaint about something that happened previously, one should not show negative feelings.
2. One, while responding, should not show signs of annoyance nor take a haughty attitude, but if one is uncomfortable, one should truthfully explain and ask for understanding or permission to leave.
3. When conversing, one should listen politely to the conversational partner, remember that person's point, and speak to that point briefly and clearly.
4. During converstion, do not speak until one's conversational partner finishes speaking and do not monopolize the conversation.
5. Generally, during conversation, one should always use simple language and not use archaic or new words inappropriately. Foreign or arcane language, which might make the conversational partner uncomfortable, should not be used thoughtlessly either.
6. During conversation, if it is necessary to cough or do something similar, one should leave or turn the body, and quietly take care of it without showing an unsanitary appearance.
7. When several people are talking together, no one should rudely interfere and interrupt other person's conversation.
8. During conversation,one should not show insincerity by looking at something else or by reading a book or a newspaper.
9. When conversing, it is inappropriate to be constantly looking at one's watch or behaving in an anxious and busy manner. If one has urgent business, one should explain that fact directly to the conversational partner and ask to be excused.
10. When conversing, one should refrain from excessive joking, sophistry, or contemptuous language and attitude, whether well acquainted with the conversational partner or not.
11. During conversation, one must refrain from emphasizing one's academic connections, expertise, family power, property, etc. One should also not display misery.
12. In the midst of conversation, one must be careful not to speak ill of or deride others and must not indiscreetly reveal someone else's secrets.
13. Do not point out the faults or demerits of a person listening while in the presence of others.
14. In the midst of conversation, one should respond when asked, even when one finds the words or question of the person speaking offensive.
15. In conversation, one must not forget to be courteous, even if one's feelings are injured.