Guide to Conduct and...


Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 1. General Propriety

Chapter 13. Congratulations and Condolences

Section 2. Appropriate Manners in Expressing Congratulations

1. One should make a special visit to relatives and close acquaintances and congratulate them when a new baby has been born.
2. One should especially participate in the congratulatory celebration when relatives or close acquaintances have a coming‐of‐age ceremony, a wedding, a sixtieth‐birthday celebration, or a sixtieth wedding ceremony.
3. One also need to visit one's relatives and close acquaintances to congratulate them on finding employment, attaining a high promotion, winning an election, recovering from illness, opening a business, or constructing a new building.
4. When a relative or close acquaintance receives public acclaim for a great work, or becomes popular in a proper way for attaining a high post, one should pay a special visit and give congratulations on that person's gains.
5. When a dharma‐friend who is practicing in a religious order has a ceremony for initiation into the Way, forging of relationships, or grade advancement, one should especially attend and offer congratulations on that occasion.
6. When one attends or makes a visit to offer congratulations or to in the ceremonies, one can present a congratulatory gift or congratulatory money, depending on the situation and relationship with the person. If one is unable to make such a visit or participate, one should send a congratulatory telegram or letter in order to express appropriately one's feelings to that person.