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Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 1. General Propriety

Chapter 6. Approaching and Stepping Back in Daily Living

Section 3. Appropriate Manners in Approaching and Stepping back

1. One should pass in front of another quietly, whether that person is higher or lower.
2. When one passes in front of an elder or a guest indoors, one should bow to excuse oneself, and then step past carefully.
3. In the presence of a Buddhist altar, pagoda, or shrine of a universally respected saints and sages, even when one's religion is different, one should bow and participate; at ordinary times when passing by, one should bow one's head in respect, and when participating in a religious ceremony different from one's own, one must show no disrespect.
4. In a dharma hall or a public meeting place, or when an elder is seated in a place of honor, one should bow as one enter or exits. If a ritual is in process, for example entering Samadhi or mental affirmation in the dharma hall, one should wait ritual has ended and then enter or exit quietly.
5. When one or an elder goes out or comes in, one should go forward to the elder and offer courteous greetings if encountering each other only occasionally. When encountering each other regularly at morning and evening, one should greet the elder appropriately both times. When one frequently encounters an elder during the day, one should join one's hands in greeting, or bow the head slightly to show respect.
6. When approaching a quiet house or room, one should make some sound in advance to let anyone inside know; and then, when that person responds, one may enter.
7. When entering the house or room of another, one should open and close the door quietly; and, when entering a room with an open door, one should leave the door as it is.
8. When dusting in front of another person, one should sprinkle water first before using the broom carefully so as not to raise dust in front of that person.
9. One should be careful of the belongings of a guest or elder, and do not step over or step on those belongings. In addition, one should not step on the shadow of an elder or a guest.
10. When accompanying an elder on a level road, one should follow behind. Walk in front only if one has a responsibility to guide the elder.
11. When men and women encounter each other, they must be especially considerate in these matters.