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Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 1. General Propriety

Chapter 5. Courtesy in Greeting

Section 2. Appropriate Manners in Courteous Greeting

1. In the standing bow greeting, first stand straight and face the other person with the two hands joined together in front and at the chest. Then bow slowly, stay for a moment, and then return to the original erect position. An alternative is to put the hands at our sides naturally, bow and halt for an instant, and then return to the original standing position. For greater courtesies, it is standard to bend the back deeply in a bow. For smaller courtesies, one bows slightly, neither too far from nor too close to the other person.
2. In a full courtesy kneeling bow, one stand straight and join one's hands together like the standing bow greeting. Holding the hands still, one slowly kneels down in a neat manner, bending the upper body slowly, and placing ones hands on the floor in an open upside down “V” shape. After staying there for a moment, one raise the body, bring the hands together again, and return to the original position. Optionally, with one's two hands, one make an open upside down “V” shape, raise them slightly, then kneel down, bend the upper body, slowly touching the floor, and staying there for a moment, then slowly resume the original position. In the greater courtesy, one touches one's forehead to the floor as the standard, but in the smaller courtesy, the four limbs touch the floor.
3. In the greeting of shaking hands, first, one stand straight and looks at the other person; we take the other's right hand, grasp it lightly for a moment, and then let it go. On occasions of greetings between those who are of higher and lower position, or between men and women, according to general propriety, the elder person or the woman should offer their hand first, and then shake hands.
4. In the greeting of saluting, one first stands straight and then raises the right arm, bending it inward, and with the ends of the fingers straight, touches the hat brim and waits until the other person responds. One then returns to the original position. In public, when a person asks for the opportunity to speak, or expresses agreement, or acknowledges another’s presence, when passing a close acquaintance at a distance,one raises the right hand straight.
5. Even a person who is an elder must always respond to someone who greets him or her according to the situation. Whoever gives a greeting must maintain a courteous manner whether the other responds or not.