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Guide to Conduct and Ceremony

Part 1. General Propriety

Chapter 9. Visiting and Receiving Guests

Section 2. Appropriate Manners in Visiting

1. When visiting a person, make contact in advance, if possible, and set up an appointment time.
2. When one visits for the first time, one should prepare a visiting card (personal/business) for exchange. If one has not prepared a visiting card, one should identify oneself by stating one's full name.
3. When one visits a person of high status or a person who handles a lot of business, make contact in advance, if possible, and set up an appointment time before visiting.
4. Avoid visiting just before mealtime, during mealtime, or late at night, unless there is an urgent matter.
5. When the host shows signs of being busy, one should, if it is not an urgent matter, state one's point simply and leave. If the problem would require a long time, one should make an appointment for a time when the host is free.
6. On arriving for a visit to a house, one must ring the bell or call a guide or a host in a gentle manner. When the guide takes one to the guest room, one must wait there for the host.
7. On entering a house, the guest should take off one's hat and coat. In the guest room or the host's room, one must not sit down in a seat of honor until one meets the host. The guest exchanges greetings with the host and then sits in the place to which the host guides.
8. If the host offers tea or fruit, the guest must wait until the host asks the guest to eat or drink. When being sitting together with an elder, one must not eat or drink before the elder does.
9. When visiting a person on business, after a simple greeting and stating one's business briefly, one should leave. When a person officially responsibility visits a public official, one should be especially brief and not interrupt that person's official activities.
10. When leaving, one should decline the host’s offer to send one off at least once; and, especially when there is another guest, one should decline that offer even more strongly.
11. When one is accompanying a superior as an attendant during a visit, one should be especially careful of one's behavior and activity, and should maintain the performance of the accompanying courtesies.