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THE DHARMA DISCOURSES OF CARDINAL MASTER CHŎNGSAN(CHŎNGSAN CHONGSA PŎBŎ)

Part One: The Canon of Secular Life

Chapter Three: Family

5. The Way of Siblings and Relatives

Siblings receive the same vital force from the parents as they are born and raised; hence it is the natural order of heavenly laws that the elder sibling ought to love the younger and the younger ought to respect the elder. Hence, siblings should share the pleasure of good things and worry together about bad things, but should not quarrel over gain and loss or envy a great fame of the other. The heaven-endowed affections should be kept by elder sibling by following the elder’s way without minding the respect of the younger and by the younger by following the way of the young without minding the love of the elder. Relatives should move toward the way of blessings and happiness by taking special care of the members of their extended family while loving the general public, correcting wrongs if there are any, helping one another to overcome any hardship, and encouraging one another to do good.
It is not, however, the way of siblings and relatives to depend unjustly on others or to rely on the influence of others under the pretext of being siblings or relatives. Eternal harmony can only be enjoyed by siblings and relatives if one renders favors to siblings and relatives without seeking favors from them.