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THE DHARMA DISCOURSES OF CARDINAL MASTER CHŎNGSAN(CHŎNGSAN CHONGSA PŎBŎ)

Part One: The Canon of Secular Life

Chapter Three: Family

2. The Way of Husband and Wife

The family starts with husband and wife. Hence, first there must be a Way between husband and wife. This is exactly what was meant when an ancient sage said, “The Way of a superior man begins with husband and wife.”
The Way between husband and wife first involves harmony. Husband and wife must love and respect each other, forgive each other’s faults, and, by mutually supporting each other’s endeavors, they will become earnest friends and companions till the end. Second is fidelity. Husband and wife must both have the highest regard for their faithfulness, avoid such unwholesome conduct as debauchery, and, unless it is one of the most heinous of crimes, they must generously forgive each other’s faults and, until the end, together accept both happiness and suffering. Third is diligence and sincerity. Both husband and wife, in the spirit of self-reliance, must live diligently and sincerely, thereby creating a comfortable home and sharing all human duties. Fourth is public service. Husband and wife must come together in unison and faithfully carry out their duties and obligations to the nation and society, as well as support philanthropic work and enterprises of edification, education, and so forth, as best they can.